I am sorry this is rather too long but please I need to pour out my mind because I need your mature advice.
I have been going through a lot of trauma since my husband stopped working and it is really getting to me because my blood pressure is high.
I love my husband and despite what is happening now, I still love him. I just need advice on how to manage the situation right now.
My husband is a hard-working, loving, caring and gentle man; he showed me true love from the first day I met him.
He was very dedicated to his job and he received commendations from his boss and colleagues at work but something just happened that led to his resignation.
A kind of conspiracy against him. He was advised by one of his superiors at work to resign.
Now it’s been more than a year that he is out of job. All attempts to get him back into the labour force had been futile because he keeps saying he does not want to settle for less.
He was earning six figure salary while at his former place of work and he has a side business which he still manages till now but the profit is close to nothing and it is not even constant.
Now, the issue I have with him is that my husband gets angry at almost everything.
He nags and drinks (not with friends because he is an introvert) excessively, so he is always at home.
He keeps on complaining about our house helps even when I investigate and realize that most of his complaints are flimsy.
We have changed house helps in this year up to 4 times.
So, in August this year, I decided not to get any maid again since we could not find one whose domestic care service would satisfy my husband.
Mind you, I have been the one practically footing the bill after two months that my husband lost his job because we made a huge investment in acquiring some property shortly before he lost his job.
So, I pay house rent, school fees, feed the whole family (we have 3 lovely children) from my salary.
My nature of work rarely gives me time so I can’t afford to take care of the children and do much of the house chores.
I explained to my husband to assist since he is always at home but he keeps saying if he had not lost his job, I wouldn’t have asked him to do basic house chores.
I know he was raised with silver spoon so he rarely knows how to do most domestic work. I had been the one doing this before we started having house helps and my job at office got more engaging.
My pastor recently advised that I should consider getting a professional cleaner who will only do some routine cleaning and leave immediately because my husband may not be comfortable with a stranger in the house.
Two days ago, I came across a post while searching for a good cleaning service here in Lagos and I decided to pay for the service of a male cleaner.
After discussing with my husband, he shunned the idea and still insists I do it myself.
So, he asked me to demand a refund. I need someone to help me do some basic cleaning at home since I can afford to pay for the service, but my husband does not want to accept any stranger in our home.
I have asked my pastor and my mother-in-law to talk to him also but he is still keeping deaf hear.
Is There Anyone With A Better Suggestion Before I Get Fed Up?